technology is a wonderful terrible thing

This is a copy of an email I wrote today to someone on a dating site. I think it'll make sense without much backstory. but for those of you who don't know, "winking" is the chicken way to get someone's attention on a dating site. the recipient gets a notice that someone has winked at them along with a link to the winkers profile, without any personal message from the winker. Very low risk for the winker.

so, I remember emailing/talking with you a bit at the end of 2007. we never ended up meeting, though. then about a month ago (maybe as much as 6 weeks) you winked at me. which i thought was odd. but not a big deal. all's fair in love and everything else I guess.

here's the interesting part. for some bizarre reason you showed up on my facebook list of people i may know. I clicked on your profile, then looked at your pictures. it became really clear that, at least for the last few months, you've been in a relationship with someone. then I clicked on her profile (i chose not to resist). she says she's in a relationship with you.

here's the upshot: technology is a wonderful terrible thing. it's easy to find out who someone really is, even if it's by accident. so if you're messing around on this site, you should know you can easily be found out on another.

I'm not here to judge you. Your biz is your own. I'm just sayin...

highlight of my day.